The Struggle is Real

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It has been some time since I have posted. I love the blog – I crave the creative outlet. But as someone who once prided themselves on being able to do it all, I find myself unable to do it all.

Some of you may know, and some may not – I work full time. I work for a retirement and wealth planning firm and I went to law school for this job.  It definitely takes up the majority of my time and focus.  Pre-baby I could do it all.  I could work part-time, go to law school full time, do the laundry, keep the house clean, (thank God Nick cooked), go out for drinks with my girlfriends and still had lots of time to dedicate to the blog.  It was, and still is, a great source of joy to me.

Post-baby it has felt forced, like in the few spare minutes I have each week in between naps and pumping and answering work emails, I must squeeze in social media time.  But it never felt forced before. And so, despite its vast overuse, I find myself quoting the phrase – the struggle is real.

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Since we have moved into our new house, Nick and Cora and I have settled into a routine. We get home around 5:30, one of us goes to get dinner, or starts making dinner, the other will play with Cora. We discuss our days and upcoming projects and revel in the few hours we all have together while we’re awake. Then I pump, Nick bathes Cora, I put her to bed and Nick cleans the kitchen. Then we race to the couch for Netflix and wine (um because once you have a baby, the “Chill” aspect of Netflix and Chill = wine and gelato from down the street). And it was great, and we got to relax and just be still and unwind for two hours before bed. But what a waste…

We’ve never been huge fans of TV, yet with a baby going to bed early we have felt like that is our only option. Over the past few weeks we have decided – no more. When Cora is awake, our attention is on her, but once she goes to bed, our attention is on our projects and our goals and each other.

I want to blog because I love it, and forcing myself to make time is not at all the same as forcing myself to create content. And for the first time since Cora is born I am excited and motivated and ready to go, doing something that is not purely mom-related.

I realize that I cannot do it all. Finding balance in life and work and relationships is just as much of an adventure as trying to figure out how to raise a tiny human. So I’m not doing it all, nor trying to.

Instead of Netflix and Chill, we’re doing Grind and Wine (because we had to keep that part of it obviously).

More posts coming [very] soon.


photos by Emma Parker Photography

Off-the-Shoulder for Fall

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Transitioning the top I wore all summer with jean shorts into fall with distressed, raw hem jeans and staple heels.  Long sleeves for cooler mornings and exposed shoulders for hot afternoons.

Below are some of my favorite transition pieces to take you from summer into fall.

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Free People distressed, raw hem jeans | Free People off-the-shoulder top (comes in other colors) | blush Prada bag borrowed from Bag Borrow or Steal (my fave!) also here for purchase | black heels via Nordstrom | sunglasses – old Chanel wayfarers


all photos by Emma Parker Photography

Sleeping with an Infant

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You know that dream you have when you first fall asleep? That dream where you trip or stumble or fall down the stairs and it jolts you awake and your body actually convulses a little. Since becoming a mother, that happens to be a few times each night, except that the dream has changed. I am no longer tripping over a crack in the sidewalk or missing a step or falling down the stairs.  Now the dream is that Cora has stopped breathing in her bassinet or she’s flipped over on to her stomach and is unable to move her head.

It’s a funny thing, parenthood.  Nick and I are both sleep-deprived and would do anything for a full nights sleep, but each one of us is so quick to jump out of bed and check on her when we can’t hear her breathing.  And she always is breathing.  I thank God for that every night. It seems like it’s just going to be the way things are for the rest of our lives; to worry like this.

As parents, we do things to ensure a little peace of mind, at least. We make sure we buy the right bottles and the right swaddles. We spend hundreds on monitors to make sure that when we aren’t in the same room as her, we can still keep an eye on her. We make sure she sleeps on her back, alone in the bassinet. We research the best toys and the best music to listen to. (She listened to more Mozart in the womb than I have over my entire life). But despite the numerous times I wake up each night to check on her, there are lots of times I don’t wake up. And her Owlet monitor, the newest addition to our household, gives me the peace of mind to be able to sleep.

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The Owlet monitor is comprised of a few pieces.  The first piece is a sock that the baby wears on her foot.  Connected via WiFi, the sock sends signals to the base of the monitor, which sits on my nightstand. If at any point during the night, the sock monitor shows that Cora has stopped breathing or her heart rate has gone down, the monitor on my nightstand will illuminate red and will sound an alarm so that I wake up. It comes with three different sock sizes, so that the monitor really can grow with your baby. Cora wears hers inside her sleep sack.

For more information on Owlet, check out their site, they have videos!

So, will this Owlet monitor keep me from jumping out of bed a few times each night to rush over to her bassinet, lean down and put my ear next to her face to make sure I can hear her breathing? No.  But it will give me the peace of mind during the times when I am sound asleep that everything is okay.

I’ve teamed up with Owlet to offer $25 off your purchase of an infant oxygen and heart rate monitor. Use this link to have the discount automatically applied at checkout.  This makes a GREAT baby shower gift. Click here for the discount.

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[all photos by Emma Parker Photography]